October..

ok so these last couple of months I have not posted much....trust me folks it is not for a lack of things to say (she will tell you I never shut up...and she is right) so no excuses but think 2019 we will sum a few of the months up and move on from here......

Octobers was a good month... hard in some ways but over all it had so much growth for us as a couple and what are "normal" would be.

We went to lunch virtually every day by then...just getting away from work and chatting, laughing...and yes a few beers. There have been some pretty deep conversations over lunch and a whole lot of learning about each other and our pasts...and where we wanted to go together.

The evening we spent on the front porch. Drinking a few beers and an amazing amount of laughing. There have been more than a few tears shed from laughing so hard...and maybe a beer coming out of the nose....queue her eye roll here. We got to know some of the neighborhood dogs and have become that couple to chat with a bit while sitting out there.

I have smoked cigarettes at this point for about 20 years. She switched to Vaping about two year prior and I always gave her chit about it when we were outside together....well one day I decided to say you know I could give vaping a go as she had let me take a vape or two and the flavor was amazing. She let me borrow one of her mods (vape devise) on a Friday, I had one cigarette that Saturday and have not had one since...in fact gave two and a half packs to a guy at work......so yeah I will be eating crow for awhile on that one.

We started going out to some restaurants on Saturday for lunch (not every Saturday but enough) that she had never had the cuisine before (i.e. Indian, Thai, Cuban). So far she has enjoyed all of them, and made the comment early on that she feels like she has lived under a rock....that was until she learned that I had never tried things like Pickles, or olives...and a few others so I started trying those as well...and damned wouldn't you know it...she is once again correct..and we are once again on the same page.....

This is also the month we really learned that we did not like the weekends near as much. The weekends right now are the time we dont get to normally see or even communicate as much.... Hard when she is monitored/he is around type of thing....so we look forward to Mondays and Sundays really stink............

The Move......

I said I was moving and the day finally came....wait let me back up to the previous day...

The day was misty and overall dreary. I had a co-worker who lives near where I used to drive me from work and drop me off to pick the moving truck up, leaving my truck at the office as I figured I could dive the moving truck to my new place, unload, drop it off then uber back to my work (my new place is so much closer to my job).

I get the truck and head to what is now my Exes house to load up.... no one would be there I was told. I loaded the truck by myself with a light mist/rain happening. I have to admit since the last time I did a move like this (by myself) I have gotten a bit older and it was a little harder than I remembered....course it may be me being a little more out of shape as well.

I finished late evening and originally I was going to sleep there and get up early and head out but after some pretty nasty communication from my ex I decided I would drive the moving truck back to my work and could just park there and sleep. I left my house key and shut the garage door for the last time and hit the road.

I made it to the office and parked the truck. I ended up sleeping in my chair after grabbing a quick shower in the Executive bathroom (ummm no folks I am not an executive lol). I emailed her that night and asked if she could pick me up from my new apartment in the morning on her way to work (it is close to the way she goes into work), thought I could take my Truck up and park it in front of my garage with just a note that I was moving in (just in case as I did not have the parking pass yet).

That ended up being a very long night...even being as tired as I was I was also pretty excited. The morning light came and I hopped in my truck and headed to the apartment (worse case if she couldn't pick me up I could just Uber back to the office and get the moving truck...... She was able so was pretty cool riding to the office together and getting to chat and listen to music like that.

She made a comment about "Do you want any help unloading"..... I thought she was joking but nope she wasn't.... so I went back up to get the keys and finish the paper work and all and she was going to meet me there a little later.

I had just started unloading boxes from the moving truck when she made it back.... I will not bore you all with the play by play but it was a very fun time. I had never done a move with anyone like that before and there was a good amount of laughing....mainly about me man handling a dresser or something lol. Once we got things in and roughly in place (i.e. essentials unpacked) we sat on the front porch (I am on the first floor and have an actual front door and small porch) for the first time (first of many evenings) and drank a few beers. 

She pointed out that just adjacent and in direct view from where we were sitting was where she used to sit a decade before when she lived there..... just another one of those little things...while I knew she lived there as she gave me the referral when I went to see the apartment I had no idea where in the place she  had been..... 

All in all it was an absolutely amazing day. The mattress and living room furniture were to be delivered the next day...and she was taking the day off to just spend together. This would be another first for us as well.... her leaving at the end of the evening....

Once she left she had a very rough evening with her spouse... and ended up getting in her own head a lot (think you deserve better type things). this was the first time we had a time that we were not on the same page and it was tough, but we kept communicating through it and by the end of the evening the realization that we could simply talk and work things out (you know like normal people who love each other should be able to do)....... yet another defining moment in this relationship we were building....and in my opinion and huge step in really defining the "us" in this and how we would deal with things....very different than I had ever experienced before.... and she would later say similar, in the past we both would have simply shut our mouths and just let it be that..... and we both agree the way we handled it was very different but felt very very good.....

Friday came and she came over in the morning...we spent a hour or so unpacking more stuff (I had most things unpacked from the night before)...and the furniture arrived....we had a couch to sit on....and a bed.....

Yes to what you all are thinking....I mean come on lol....so I will leave this post with a comment made by her that day "Your bed is FUCKED!"........

When she reads this she will roll her eyes...really laugh out loud....and if she reads it with me in eye sight...yup I will get a look

First in a Decade Continued......

So A showed me the drawing and was a little concerned as the way he was wanting to do some of it he could not actually draw on paper due to the technique he wanted to utilize so let me know the concept and that that portion would be free hand if I was ok with trusting him like that.... I am not sure why I said "let do it"........and so he did, and it is an amazing piece (sorry folks not posting it here....you will have to take our word for it).....

So all done, A took a picture and sent to me so I emailed her and...well....

Her: Holy shit that is awesome!!   XXX and YYY look good together.  Love how he did the notes!  Wow!!
Me: By far the most meaningful one I have and the best quality
Her: Would it sound corny to say I’m flattered that it’s your most meaningful?  I’m still a little shocked lol
Me: Nope not corney at all..and it most assuredly is the most meaningful 


I have to confess, while I knew I wanted this tattoo...I was worried she would think that was a bit much, or creepy or something like that...or just out right not like it. Getting that reply was pretty amazing feeling in itself.....and this is the absolute most meaningful one I have at this moment...of course as life moves on with her there will be more added to our story that will be just as meaningful in their own way....but this one embodies such a defining moment, and person in my life that it will always have such a special place and story........


Teaser.... I already have my next one being designed and should have it soon..... but thats another post and story....

First in a Decade

I have a few tattoos. Each one has pretty deep meaning for me in some way. The last decade I had not had any moments that really made me want to get more ink (and I was pushed at times to just get more...but to me something permanent like that should really mean something) until the Dance in the Rain with her...

That dance  was one of those "Once in A Lifetime" type of moments....oh I know we will undoubtedly dance in the rain again but the perfect combination of the time, location, song, emotion...just everything...will probably never be reproduced.

I did some searching for Tattoo shops both down near where I was living at that time and up near where I would be moving in a couple of weeks....(yes a little place, much closer to where I wanted to be...and yes just me). I found one near where I would be that had great reviews o I gave them a call on a Sunday afternoon. They only did walk ins but I was antsy so I hit the road to swing in and at least get a consultation..maybe set up an appointment for after I moved up there

I get to the shop and after waiting just a short bit I met the guy who I would end up getting the Tattoo from (we will call him A). A listened to what I wanted, Her astrological sign and mine entwined with the opening rift to Wicked Games (the actual sheet music. He loved the idea and had been really wanting to do a tat like this one with great meaning that incorporated music (He is a musician lol). He said he was free and I could get it then....well hello...consultation turns into a tat! He took me back to his booth and then went to draw up the tattoo.... I took the change to email her and let her know what was going on.....

Me: So yeah in a couple hours guess who will have some new ink?

Her: What and where?!
Me: Right shoulder blade, Signs for XXX and YYY entwined and the sheet music to the intro for Wicked Game

And before the thought of wth lol..this is for me..us is something that,no matter what happens in the future, is such a deep part of me..all of my tats are stories of moments in my life that I will never forget...you and I are the brightest moment..and each new one with you is more amazing

than the last..but boy that dance in the rain...wow

Her: I’ll bite my tongue on the wth...lol It does sound pretty cool...can’t wait to see it!!!

I realize that there may be those out there that are cringing at the thought of having anything like someone else name...or their astrological sign permanently place on their body and that it completely fine.... but the simple truth is that dance, with her is one of those defining moments in life and no mater what the future holds, I will always look at that night and that dance and smile....and its the first time in a decade that I wanted to remember enough, to commemorate, to be able to tell my kids, grand kids about in the future......

more to come.......